Tip for Grievers #13

When you are able, say yes.

Make a new friend, start a new activity, take a little trip, have a massage, color your hair purple(!). Gentler? Accept a friend's invitation to do something. Too tame? Bungee jump, (No, I haven't done that literally. But sometimes it feels like it.)

Yes, I feel a little wistful that Tom isn't here with me as I do these things. But some of them he would have hated. That's okay. For the first time since I was 23, I have the chance to explore exactly the things I want to explore in just the way I want to explore them. That's a little heady for me.

So I'm in a "yes" mode. I'm omnivorous at the moment - taking in as much as I can and seeing what feels good for me. Just me. I feel a little selfish as I say that, but I'm going to ignore me.

I'm just doing "reeeeee-search," as my master's advisor, Marty Medhurst would say. You have to throw your net wide when you start.