Tip for Grievers #25

It's the counter-intuitive advice for the new year: Simplify your goals. Or, better yet, dump them.

In the throes of grief, you just put one foot in front of the other. Goals, as goals, cease to have a lot of meaning. You've just had proof positive that life is temporal and the future is only a supposition.

But I still celebrate. Every day forward is a good thing. My primary goal has become letting everyone I love know that. Making sure that I deal straight with people and don't hide behind a stoic face or get passive aggressive. Getting as clear as I can about how I really feel and what I really think.

So, on this eve of a new year, I am letting you all know that I care about you. You wouldn't be my friend on FB if I didn't. I hope I've had the chance to tell you that in person or in a personal message. I'm very very thankful to be a part of a great community of friends here. You've all been immensely kind to me this past year. Blessings on you!