Tip for Grivers #23

Your normal will never be normal again. That's an uh-duh, I know, but it hides an opportunity.

Yes, I'll have a new normal. Whether I like it or not, and it's normal to fear I won't, I will grow in new ways. It's terrifying on a lot of levels because I don't want to change. I was really quite happy. So there's an internal struggle in me. But I realized I have a choice of how I grow and shift and change.

I've actually been thinking about this a lot recently, as I've been stretching into the netherworld of my comfort zones. I've purposely been trying to stretch - to stretch my experiences, my activities, my interactions with friends and family - really to stretch to authenticity. Stretch wide, then reintegrate into my center. So many stretches lead to comfort, calm, and better connection.

But sometimes I venture too close to the edge, my orbit gets a little too wacky. My center starts to slide. I begin to wonder if I ought to panic. That's okay. It's actually a good thing. Because it's at those outer reaches, sometimes, that I learn the most. I learn what I really want and need, the person I really want to be.

I've had a real note of clarity, a vision of what my future normal might be. And it doesn't look that scary. A little fun, actually.